If there is one thing I've learned on my journey to recovery is that you begin to see people for who they truly are. Toxic people exist around us and hide their personalities until their skin and once you realize what they truly are and how they act, they will either change their ways or continue to act as if you are the problem. It's not you, it's them. First, everyone has faults and things that they need to work on including myself. We're all human and works in progress, no one is perfect. It's one thing for a person to realize their behavior is negatively effectively their lives and change their behavior and for the person to put their faults onto the other people. This is how toxic people are. Here are some examples:
I could go on and on for this list. Toxic people see nothing wrong with their behavior and act as though it's a reflection on other people, not them. There are many types of toxic people and you may never realize they are around until there is a major change in your or you start realizing that they are negatively effecting your life. No one should make you feel about the choices you make, how you react, and how you handle situations. We all have flaws and as we grow and make mistakes, we learn to accept them and embrace who we are. It's not a simple journey and behaviors can be changed but for toxic people, they don't see that it's a reflection on them. They don't accept that they are imperfect and choose to make others feel bad when their flaws are pointed out.
In my journey to recovery, I've terminated toxic relationships that ranged from friendships, close relationships, coworkers, and even people that I've known for a long time. Once, they realize they can no longer manipulate you they see this as an opportunity to strike trying make you feel bad. This can be extremely difficult for anyone but especially for someone like me who has Anxiety and Depression. They seek to destroy the other person and persons and refuse to hold their actions accountable. So, how do you deal with people like this?
It's not simple and can be challenging but what you need to know is that it's in your power to terminate relationships that no longer grow you as a person mentally, physically, or emotionally. You are in power and you have the right to terminate these relationships and you don't owe anyone explanations. If they continue to make you feel bad, it's not a reflection on you but on them. They see nothing wrong with their behavior. It's one thing to realize that you need accept your flaws and grow into a better person and completely ignore them and blame them on others. NO one is perfect and you are in control of your life, not them. Don't let people continue to take up space in your life if they aren't bringing you happiness, not helping you grow as a person, or contributing to helping you become a better person. You don't owe them anything.
- Never taking responsibility for their actions
- Making the other person or persons feel guilty
- Manipulating people to get what they want
- Controlling what others do and say about you and making them feel as if they are the ones who are wrong
- Making excuses for their behavior
I could go on and on for this list. Toxic people see nothing wrong with their behavior and act as though it's a reflection on other people, not them. There are many types of toxic people and you may never realize they are around until there is a major change in your or you start realizing that they are negatively effecting your life. No one should make you feel about the choices you make, how you react, and how you handle situations. We all have flaws and as we grow and make mistakes, we learn to accept them and embrace who we are. It's not a simple journey and behaviors can be changed but for toxic people, they don't see that it's a reflection on them. They don't accept that they are imperfect and choose to make others feel bad when their flaws are pointed out.
In my journey to recovery, I've terminated toxic relationships that ranged from friendships, close relationships, coworkers, and even people that I've known for a long time. Once, they realize they can no longer manipulate you they see this as an opportunity to strike trying make you feel bad. This can be extremely difficult for anyone but especially for someone like me who has Anxiety and Depression. They seek to destroy the other person and persons and refuse to hold their actions accountable. So, how do you deal with people like this?
It's not simple and can be challenging but what you need to know is that it's in your power to terminate relationships that no longer grow you as a person mentally, physically, or emotionally. You are in power and you have the right to terminate these relationships and you don't owe anyone explanations. If they continue to make you feel bad, it's not a reflection on you but on them. They see nothing wrong with their behavior. It's one thing to realize that you need accept your flaws and grow into a better person and completely ignore them and blame them on others. NO one is perfect and you are in control of your life, not them. Don't let people continue to take up space in your life if they aren't bringing you happiness, not helping you grow as a person, or contributing to helping you become a better person. You don't owe them anything.